DISQUS

Rogue · 1 year ago

Did you really just do a SWOT analysis on cohabitation??? Done with you, Gordon. Done.

Jamie · 1 year ago

Good article. I don't think people should "shack up." There have been studies done to show that "shacking" tends to result in men being less inclined to marry a woman, and I can see why. In essence, like it or not, it IS a situation where men are getting the milk for free. I don't think any self-respecting woman should move in with a man until there is a WEDDING ring on her finger. Not only is it spiritually wrong, but what's the point? It has the potential to be a terrible, sticky mess...especially if the couple decides to join their finances.

Jason · 1 year ago

Damn another great article POSH. Gordon you are going to hell for talking about the mother board...lol. No shacking up for the kid! You live and you learn and this is something I will not do again. When is the next duel between you and Jock...that was rather funny? Keep up the good work.

swivel · 1 year ago

depends on the couple, i guess. i won't do it, though.

Ms. Love · 1 year ago

It's the only way to know the nature your real situation; not the fanstasy of a situation you live in where you've made a map of your relationship, absent the dynamic factors of personalities and learned behavior (home training). When you live together you meet an entirely different person than the one you're dating. Cuz see..right now you don't know what they do with their underwear when they take it off nor do you if they clean the shower when they're finished bathing; you just don't know. What about their debt to income ratio? You won't know until you see that stack of bills laying on the counter. You don't know how much space and alone time the other requires because when you're dating you don't make dates when you want to be by yourself. Although Gordon's threats are the TRUTH, I say, find out what your real situation is before you get married. If your relationship is destiny it can only bring you closer. If not, you'll know before you spend tens of thousands of dollars on a wedding.

john Curtis · 1 year ago

I loved your SWOT approach as I have just released a new book on cohabitation that uses business concepts to help couples build and sustain successful live-in relationships... please check out "Happily Un-Married: Living Together & Loving It at
www.wecohabitate.com

love supreme · 1 year ago

i'm anti shacking up! it's cool to be around your guy. it's cool to save money on bills and all, but i'm against it. when you play married without the officiallity (is that a word?) of marriage, you are setting yourself up for failure.

when you live together, you deal with real life drama, bills, trust, insecurities... but most of the time you haven't gone through counseling, familial involvement, or a sacred covenant of marriage. when it gets hard, and it usually will, then you have an easy out. where is the committment? what is the point?

if you're not sure if you should marry the person you are dating, then you probably shouldn't be moving in with them.