DISQUS

Him · 1 year ago

I thought everybody loved Raven. Please leave her alone!

Tiffany · 1 year ago

People lie about weight precisely because other people care. It's not fair, but the fact that folks are discussing her "lie" probably reinforces why she doesn't feel comfortable being honest...

CocoaDiva · 1 year ago

I use Raven as a reference. The post is for everyone who lies about their weight, or what they eat, what size they wear, or how much weight they have gained.

The longer we lie to ourselves about size....the more weight you are going to gain. The first step to fixing a problem is admitting to yourself that you have one.

Susan · 1 year ago

I agree. Great article.

Anita · 1 year ago

Have you ever noticed more expensive clothes tend to run larger? I am a size 12 (really) but the last time I went shopping for a dress (I don't wear them much so if there's a formal occasion I have to go buy one) I tried on a few cheap dresses that were size 12s, but for a few (hundred) dollars more I could have been a size 8! I'm not so rich or so vain that I'd pay extra to pretend I'm smaller but maybe if you're a celebrity...

angela · 1 year ago

Most importantly, Raven needs to realize she's not thick...she's big. She needs to hit up a gym and start counting those calories. This is harsh love. I got some all day.

YupThatsMe · 1 year ago

I never understood why some people invest so much time in other people's business. If she is fat, so be it. How does that affect you? Will you lose sleep? Will you become less desirable? I just dont get it. Let her do her, and you do you. If a woman is a size 24 thats her right. We are so quick to jump on what others do instead of focusing on ourselves. Don't go to the "I want her to be healthy" thing. Just worry about you being healthy, thats your job and responsibility.

Claudette · 1 year ago

You never know. Maybe in the clothing she buys she is a size 12. Honestly I was about the size she looks in that picture when I was a freshman in high school, and a good pair of jeans for me was a 14/15 and sometimes a 12/13 depending on the cut. Is that pic from her website? If not then you know how people love to alter pictures to make people look bigger than they are.

angela · 1 year ago

The problem is this, when celebrities walk around glorifying their fatness, this leaves a false impression with women (young and old) that being big is ok. It is not. There is nothing cute, sexy, or modern about being too lazy to hit the gym regularly and take care of yourself. Raven is a ready target because she is a celebrity. Now personally, I'm grown, I could care less is she is big...she and I aren't friends. But what I do care about is the false reality that women like she and Monique give young women. There is nothing wrong with high self esteem, but there is something very wrong with not being able to control what and how much you eat as well as being too lazy to hit the track a couple times a week. That's my 2 cents.

-former fat girl

YupThatsMe · 1 year ago

Angela, I dont think its glorifying being fat. Its called confidence and self acceptance. Since you werent happy with how you looked you changed it. They are happy with their appearance and why should they change because YOU don't like it? You don't know someone's story just by looking at their cover. Bottom line, overweight people are still PEOPLE with feelings and emotions. I commend women that are comfortable in their skin both big and small. Its attitudes like Angela's that upset me. Who are you to determine who is lazy and what people should be doing? Im almost sure that you are still probably considered overweight (fat) even after the weight loss. So do some inventory on yourself before you judge others because the messure that you use to judge them will be used to judge you

CocoaDiva · 1 year ago

Dear yep. Why does it really matter? The point of the article is beyond that of Raven. The idea is for folks to stop LYING. The lies you tell will put you ina an early grave. You can rationalize it all you want. Hey I liast 50 pounds and speak from experience. Its all in loves. Just like cheaters never prosper, neiyher do liers. If your overweight...yoor overweight. Of you can show me proof from your physician as to the contrary...your fat. THE END. Recognze it, find a change and stop passing the buck. BTW Angela is a size 2... Not fat.
CocoaDiva out...encouragung everyone to man up and hit the gym

YupThatsMe · 1 year ago

Ive lost 50 lbs and Im speaking from experience TOO so you of all people should understand. You cant tell people what they should do with their life. You dont know their situation nor their story so again who are you to tell someone about their weight? its none of your concern. So sweetie, if im fat, you are right there standing next to me. Whats up big girl!!! I guess I'll see you in line at McDonalds. Are you gonna super size? I understand that the article was a poor attempt to address the issue of "lying" about weight, but it revealed more. It illustrates that anyone with a computer and free type can type a disrespectful and ill-informed "article" spreading their closed minded views about a topic that is sensitive to all women. I gotta go because Phat Girls is on. I know you hate that movie.

CocoaDiva · 1 year ago

Ummmm this is a blog where I discuss fitness,weight , and health....Soooo size, health, fitness ane the like are at issue and whatever makes folks pay attention to those topics...I'm discussing. Hate it or love it

YupThatsMe · 1 year ago

Is a size 2 considered healthy? Skinny does not equal healthy

YupThatsMe · 1 year ago

Ok, I hate it. Thanks though for the entertainment. I will be sure you check you out again...RIIIGHT!!

Esquire · 1 year ago

Wow, Cocoa Diva...I missed all this drama. Lol. Geeezzzz. Let's just address a couple points here:
1. If you want to be big and glorify it, then hey...that's between you and your heart. But lying to yourself and saying you are thin when you aren't is counterproductive. Either you like being big (and therefore would not be ashamed of telling your *true* measurements) or you want to be seen as thin and therefore lie about the facts. Example (because this is not a big girl bash, this is a "let's keep it real" discussion): Tonight I ate 3 chocolate chip cookies and a potato dumpling for dinner....no veggies anywhere. But when my man called and asked me what I had for dinner, I lied because I knew better. I didn't want him to know the truth. I *should* have had the broccoli and salmon I told him I had, but I didn't. I lied like a rug because I *knew* I was wrong. What's the point? This: just keep it real. And if you're lying, then you have something to hide that you are ashamed of. Instead of living in guilt and deceit, own up to the truth and make your false reality true. Its hard, but in the end, its worth it.

2. And Yup, yes...I am a size 2. Yes, it is healthy. Check with any doctor or any govt agency report and it'll confirm that for ya. I'm not saying everyone should be a size 2....hell I really don't care if Raven is really a size 22...but all I'm saying is you don't have to lie to kick it.

unitboi · 1 year ago

Well. Seems I have stumbled across some interesting discussions here. I agree with Yup. A person should be allowed to be whoever and however they choose to be as long as it doesn't "Directly" effect others. If Raven likes to be over weight and a liar, that's her choice, not ours. Furthermore no one has to use Raven as an example of how they should be or live their lives. She no more than an entertainer, not an example. Conversely, we have the right to discuss how she conducts herself and how she lives. It's the cost of fame, and on that note, "stop lying about your size Raven!" LOL

CocoaDiva · 1 year ago

I agree....public figure...public comment. Sorry for ya!

You have to realize this...when I discuss someone famous it appears people read and internalize or are shocked into evaluating their own weight situations.

When I write fuzzy and informative posts...no one comments or responds. Yall like drama lol.

mystiphi · 1 year ago

since you used a celebrity reference, has anyone notice that "miss skinny women are evil" monique has slimmed down?
better watchout before she pulls a star jones.

sHaE-sHaE · 1 year ago

First off, I love your site. Second, I realized a while ago that when writing about celebrities people can get a little spastic. They feel as if they personally know the celeb and get defensive on you. I don't know what size Raven wears, but she does not APPEAR to be a 12 (which of course appearances can be deceiving). She is an example because she face it, young people emulate those they like so if she's a 20 saying she's a 12, some poor unsuspecting child will be out there saying they are a 20 when they are a 28. Is it my concern? Nope. Is is sad. Hells yeah.

CocoaDiva · 1 year ago

Thanks for the compliment Shae!

I agree with you. Like I said, I call it like I see it..she is not a 12....I am not Beyonce...we all need to keep it real and work with what we have.