The P.O.S.H. Life - Latest Comments

Re: In Love With My Natural

Rox — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:36:26 -0000

I love your tips, #1 is SO important and to stem off of that another thing to keep in mind is to be patient and gentle with your hair. Take your time when combing and styling it, your hair will love you for it later by not breaking off as much, for instance. And like GoldenAh said be flexible with your routine. Length, weather and life present different needs for our hair.

Re: Black Man’s Burden: Black Women and HIV

Playing with numbers — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 02:19:57 -0000

Let’s play with numbers… First of all there was an incorrect conclusion drawn from the statistics. If 34% of bisexual men lie to women about being with men then that means only 66% of men would tell the truth ( as opposed to the 76% that is in the article- bad math). That literally translates to 1 in 3 bisexual black men would not reveal it to female partner. That’s disturbing and a serious problem no matter how you try to spin it.

Second was this quote “Numerically, Blacks and Whites are about even in terms of overall total cases of HIV/AIDS, with Blacks being 41% and Whites being 40%.” Ok let’s break this down mathematically. Blacks only make up 12% of the population; while whites make up nearly 75% (2000 census). So literally the incidence rate is 7 times higher for blacks then it is for whites!! Dating another race may be an extreme measure, but statically speaking it’s a smart one.

Sometimes the media lies, sometimes sh*t is just as bad as it seems.

Black community stop making it hard for bothers to come out…black women take control and protect yourself…and black men if you don’t like the rap you are getting make some changes.

Re: Hop Back On That Diet Wagon

SunFresh — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 14:43:22 -0000

Buy a sexy outfit that is too small and work to get into it.
While talking on the phone, get up out the house and walk around the neighborhood.
Get some exercise equipment for the house. I've got dumbells and a yoga ball. At commercials I'll get up and do a lil' something.
Shop out the perimeter of the grocery store and avoid the isles. The bakery, veggies, meats are all located on the perimeter and are likely more healthy than what's in the middle.
Know your weaknesses (french fries) and avoid them.
Reward yourself when you lose weight - instead of buying food, buy a cute shirt/dress/pants.

Re: Hop Back On That Diet Wagon

diet foods — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 15:11:40 -0000

their are diet foods out there you can eat an maintain a healthy life style with out the every day exercise

Re: 7 Exercise Myths Busted

K. Ficociello — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 02:31:16 -0000

Nice site, I was getting lazy and missing the gym too often, I hope ur site gets me motivated to lose those last 15 kilos!!!
I can't follow my diet (with dietition) for more that a week...

This is a helpful site and I'm adding it to my favourites

Thanks

Re: Listening to Music during your Workout Can Increase Weight Loss: My Play List

henry456 — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 08:47:26 -0000

The above contemplation is smart and doesn’t necessitate any further calculation. It is great thought from my side. The songs is life...
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Henry Pollick
workouts

Re: Chris Brown Cops A Plea Deal

jeff — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 20:16:04 -0000

if he beat a white girl's ass, he'd be under the jail. True or False?

Re: Being Overweight Has A Direct Affect On Your Sex Life

femalelibidoproblems — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 04:46:40 -0000

Wow you did a great job on this article, sex is an intimate activity and one of the biological needs of a person. In order to have a good sex life you must maintain a good amount of libido

Re: Is An Emotional Man A Lame?

Emma — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 16:50:50 -0000

It is sth beautiful to see a man cring because of love. I see this as sth strong not weak...I wish to know why men dont epress heir feelings easly like womwn..Actully I envy them they lucky ecause they are strong

Re: 10 Things to Know About Identity Theft

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Re: Every Good Woman Needs A Thug?

Double Speak Anyone? — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 04:51:05 -0000

Thanks for dumbing down so that everyone could easily understand your complex explaination.... :-D I know you may not be accustomed to communicating with non-exclusives like ourselves...but thanks for shedding the light...LOL

Re: 10 Things to Know About Identity Theft

Silki Garg — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 11:07:41 -0000

Yes I agree.
Identity Theft is the menace growing by each passing day. Better and eefective measures alongwith the rise in awareness is the need of the hour.

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Re: Should Women Carry Condoms?

swiv — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 17:19:49 -0000

yes. might as well be prepared.

Re: Should Women Carry Condoms?

Lady V — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 16:48:02 -0000

I can't believe how backwards that investment baker's comment is. That attitude suggests that women's only strategy to protect ourselvesfrom disease and pregnancy is to decide whether to have sex or not.

regardless, a guy who comes unprepared simply doesn't want or deserve to have sex. i learned the hard way that the guy who shows up without a condom is just as likely to take off the one you give him or let it break and not tell you, leaving you in a world of dealing with morning pills and std tests for weeks and months ahead. that ish is simply not worth it.

Re: Should Women Carry Condoms?

Andromeda Oatis — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 15:37:24 -0000

I do...The women who carry the condoms are the ones you should trust. No woman should be without them. People are often time reckless and saving yourself should be your number one priority...It's better to be seen than viewed...:-)...National HIV testing day June 27th!!! Get tested!

Re: Casual Sex Is Screwing Relationships

U_Unadulterated — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 10:21:11 -0000

Cocoa Diva, I am in your Amen corner! Casual sex has ruined the development of real quality relationships. With each random hook-up a person engages in that "jumpoff" takes a withdrawal from their love bank, regardless if they are male or female. There are a lot of broke people out here pretending to be "ballin" when it comes to love and sex. I am of the belief that the emotional component to sex can't be isolated from the act in itself. People lie to themselves in order to accept this kind of behavior as ok. They use the "man shortage" excuse or the infamous "hey I got needs too" line to justify being purely sexual and unattached to their partner of the moment.

You inspired me to expand this topic on my blog soon, check me out at
http://u-unadulterated.blogspot.com/

Re: In Love With My Natural

GoldenAh — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 19:00:00 -0000

You will also discover that the longer your hair is, should you desire more length, your routine and the products you use will have to change. Your curls may tighten or may loosen up. It may seem to get harder or easier to take care of.

Our hair is so interesting.

Best of luck with your journey.

Re: Casual Sex Is Screwing Relationships

susanawalsh — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 09:01:41 -0000

Awesome article Cocoa Diva! I couldn't agree more, which is why I write the blog www.HookingUpSmart.com. And there's NO doubt that hookups are a better deal for men, because they're much better at having sex without catching feelings.

Re: Having a Big Butt May Be Good for Your Health

april — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 15:24:14 -0000

Good to know that my big butt is OK. ^_^ one step closer to accepting it.

Re: Are You In A Rush To Get Married?

markgc — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 06:25:22 -0000

@Sunfresh - I think you need to start paying attention to men as human beings, rather than 2D cutouts that fit or don't fit into your rigid requirements.

I'm not going to challenge your generalisation about men under 30, despite agressively disagreeing with it, because although you have clearly made this generalisation based on your own limited experience, my heavy disagreement is also only based on my own limited experience.

Secondly, you are already applying financial "tick-boxes" to a relationship which is supposed to be based on interaction, trust, respect and companionship. Although as creatures we may not always have the emotional articulation to show it, most of us men DO want a fulfilling, long-term relationship based on each person loving the other because of their merits. Most men, if they got an inkling that their potential life partner required them to have a "comfortable income" (as you put it) as part of "matching up", would not feel that this person was genuinely interested in them as someone to spend the years side-by-side with. Personally I don't care if my partner has two pennies to rub together - I love her because of her unique personality, our deep connection, and the fact that she is my absolute best friend on the world.

In response to your point about holding sex over relationship depth - here you are writing off men again as a statistic. Maybe you need to try and understand us a little better - we are emotional creatures, we just articulate ourselves differently and expect to be understood and respected by our partners, just as you do. Would you be happy for a man to make a careless generalisation such as, "Why do women always get fat after they get married? Don't they realise they need to stay good looking to keep their man?" ? No, I am sure you would not. Therefore taking such a patronising stance against men is not likely to endear you to a potential long-term partner.

Sadly I think that your post is consistent with modern ideas on relationships, where more and more people work out "what they want" and then set about stamping that onto other people. In the process they fail to see that point of spending your life and your experiences with another human being is simply that - spending your life and your experiences with another human being. Not finding an accessory that "completes you", meets your requirements or patches up your insecurities.

That's a sports car.

Re: Casual Sex Is Screwing Relationships

Brandon St. Randy — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 20:58:41 -0000

By realtionship material, it was implicit that I meant "for that person." I think we're saying the same thing using different terms.

Re: Casual Sex Is Screwing Relationships

Brandon St. Randy — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 20:57:45 -0000

Angyr CocoaDiva! CocoaDiva Want Commitment! Actually, I agree with you, jumpoffhood is not a step toward a relationship, but I think your assumption is that women think they are going to get saved by being a good jumpoff. Pretty much all women know in their hearts that's not the case. Some might try to fool themselves into thinking it is, but whose fault is that? Why do you assume women are so easily bamboozled and naive?

Re: Casual Sex Is Screwing Relationships

Dbaaby — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 19:19:01 -0000

i feel its on you if you feel that your going to benefit from doing this random act than okay...but some people do act without thinking...but like i siad its a choice a person has to make and if you feel matre enuff to make it that thats on you...

Re: Casual Sex Is Screwing Relationships

mystiphi — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 17:14:37 -0000

I think the other side of that is can a guy who has just moved from having a series of Jump-offs make it in a relationship. I think he is in emotional downfall about being alone and is always seeking the jump-off. I think he can reform (i really do), but it will take time, committment and hardwork, all the things that go into a relationship that some of us fail to realize.
Brothers will reform their ways, but the sisters may have to lead that revolution.
Make us work for it. (I know a lot of sisters do make the brothers work, but its the others that make us lazy).

Re: Casual Sex Is Screwing Relationships

CocoaDiva — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 12:56:29 -0000

"Women are coming along to view jump-offs as the thing (a step-down from part-time lady to someones full-time man), but guys still the jump-off is cool because that what we learn as men to an extent. if your parents, friends,etc taught you different and you practice dating, good."

Jumpoffs are the death of everything. My personal opinioin is this ...if you are a jumpoff there is no step up for you. Your promotion is never coming. You are in a dead end job for manual labor only. Women need to realize this and stop settling for being on tap va jay jay. If you want that....ride out. But, I know most of us don't so your settling is only going to lead to your emotional downfall when he stops screwing you and tells you he is in a relationship....