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Pick Up the Phone! Don’t Text Date!

Started by CocoaDiva · 6 months ago

The invention of the text message was a Godsend for quick and easy communication.  You can find the whereabouts of anyone in seconds, say wassup, and set up an event in seconds.   However, it has greatly contributed to the downfall of dating.  We no ... Continue reading »

9 comments

  • Anthony Taurus

    10 months ago

    I have to agree. When trying to get to know someone, it's better to pick up the phone. But overall, it's really the level of communication that will let you know what he or she thinks about you.

    However, I do take issue with women who just don't say how they feel and use the act of ignoring as a signal. Just say the word one time and call it day. I understand some guys are scary-persistent. But, if it's a brother like me, I'd like to know that I can move on as soon as possible.

    I NEED CLOSURE. lol.

    But seriously, I got like 10 other numbers I could be wasting my time on. Those are precious minutes that could be used to better my odds with more potentially fruitful endeavors if I don't have to waste a second or third phone call. That attitude has got to change.
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  • Nasir Aleem

    10 months ago

    I personally dislike texting, even though its a part of my daily activity. I use texting to ask basic questions, give short answers, and solidify meeting times. Outside of that, a person needs to call me. On the flip side of that, I'm addicted to returning emails on my Blackberry and iPhone, but I hate getting a message like this: Wat time r u gng 2 the movie? brb, lol, lmao, rofl, and all that other nonsense. I AM ILLITERATE IN TEXT MESSAGE LANGUAGE!!!!!! HELP ME!!!!! LOL
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  • CCGroovy

    10 months ago

    This is some of the truest truth that I have seen in a while and expresses a great deal of my own personal sentiments. THANK YOU!!!

    I mos def need to get U on my Roll for this.

    P.S. Don't get mad if U seee this up roun' my way soon.
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  • mahoganydymond

    10 months ago

    "You May Not Get an Answer.Just because you texted someone, doesn’t mean they’re going to respond. This is another issue with using text messaging as your main communication method — especially in the dating context. You’re texting back and forth with someone, then you send something to them and they don’t respond. They may have gotten on the phone. They may have fallen asleep. They may have gone into a meeting. Because texting is so impersonal, though, you don’t know what happened to them."

    That is somethiing that I do all the time.. (NOT RESPOND TO A TEXT... I also hate the forwards. I am not a phone person anyway. So I don't even know really why I got a cell phone.. O it is for emergencies.

    I am liking your site..
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  • CocoaDiva

    10 months ago

    I completely agree. Esquire and I were just saying that text messages should be used as a secondary method of communication. If you can't pick up a phone your lazy....plain and simple. We want everything quick, fast, and in a hurry. Relationships aren't like that....they take time....get used to it.
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  • swiv

    10 months ago

    what a sad world we live in that someone HAS to be told this.
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  • WindyCityGurl606

    10 months ago

    Texting is exactly why a relationship never started for me. The guy started the initial relationship w/ texting. I gave my number for the man to call. Instead, the guy thought it was the way to begin. Nope. Not upset w/ him...just doesn't work for me.

    On another note....I ended another relationship b/c he refused to call. Once again...not upset...just realized what didn't work for me. Sorry for length....just had to express myself.
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  • Nia Diamonds

    10 months ago

    I agree in most part with the post. However, I don't believe in "don't send a text immediately after a date". Dates, especially first dates are ambiguous. I have gone on dates, laughed and smiled and had great conversation, but wasn't interested in anything more than friendship with him while on the date. I figured no sense in being mean or rude and not worthy of a lengthy discussion as to why I'm not interested in pursuing anything further. A text works perfectly for ME in that situation.

    Wishing you peace, productivity and prosperity,

    Nia
    www.blacksexyprofessional.com
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  • Ed

    2 months ago

    I started dating a woman.
    But she texted so much, it drove me crazy.
    After about a month, it was over.
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