Jock, you make a convincing argument... however just like the women you are attempting to praise it lacks substance. Gordon says it best... you can indeed find and enjoy a gold digger for the moment, but if you are looking for a person of worth, you have to look further than a woman who is merely after your net worth.
Reginald C.
· 1 year ago
You guys are hilarious! Great points on both accounts.
Jock Roqoff
· 1 year ago
Well met, Gordon! "Insecticons sucking on Energon cubes!" Hilarious! Of course, I wholeheartedly agree with you about the futility of seeking a long term healthy relationship with Nene and them. But there's no reason to hate them for their character flaws. They are what they are. Don't date 'em, but don't hate 'em, I always say.
CocoaDiva
· 1 year ago
Gold diggers exist because men keep wearing their wallets on their foreheads like the Big Joker. Isn't the theme for the season "It ain't trickin if you got it." Congrats men now every thirsty female is using her x-ray vision into your wallet and mutual fund. Don't get mad that people are searching for things you are broadcasting on a frequency aliens can pick up. Jock is right, buttcheeks you can serve a family of four on aren't a reqirementbut they sure do make the package more attractive. So a wallet you can stand on I has the same principle.
swiv
· 1 year ago
could be the women in the A or DC you're associating with.
Ms. Love
· 1 year ago
Great discussion! You're both right, the gold digger is alive and well. She's looking good and prospering. But to love her or to hate her is a personal decision. The men that CocoaDiva speaks of (the ones that need everyone to know "they got it") love the gold digger for the reasons that Jock explained. The men who can't stand the gold digger won't give her the time of day (assuming the obvious, of course, that you can "spot her a country mile away"). So what does it matter? We cannot knock her hustle Gordon.
Nia
· 1 year ago
You can't blame golddiggers for trying, you CAN blame the men that fall for their obvious agendas. If a man is attractive, intelligent, respectful, and accomplished then he is a good catch! May the best woman win. BUT if the ONLY thing he has to offer is a nice bank account and women are chasing him like lil kids chasing the ice cream truck in the summer....The message,last I checked a gold digger wasn't a criminal and wasn't taking money illegally, so put the blame where it belongs, with the dumb man that KNOWS she is only after his money and gives it to her....
Rogue
· 1 year ago
Gold diggers and the men that support them, on the next Maury Povich...
That One
· 1 year ago
Take one to know one, lol...
RideOrDie
· 1 year ago
Why does a woman have to be a gold digger for getting the things she wants out of life? When a man gets some free stuff and comes up off a woman he is smart and "pimpin." When a woman goes the same thing...she is a gold digger....these double standards kill me.
Reginald C.
· 1 year ago
It is rather amazing how the women are defending gold diggers. I guess a hit dog will holler.
Nia
· 1 year ago
No what is amazing is how easily a fool and his money are parted. What is hilarious is the men that ASSUME that a woman wants a man with money cause she doesn't have her own...
Reginald C.
· 1 year ago
As stated before the women are defending the practice rather than looking at the fact that maybe that mentality is not cool. Not one woman who has commented has been opposed to gold diggers. I guess we find another reason why some black women are single. The brothers have smartened up and no longer deal with that foolishness.
CocoaDiva
· 1 year ago
Umm Reginald.....If brothers have smartened up...there wouldn't be a need for this post.
As a successful woman, I am against gold mining of any kind, trust and believe I have heard the suga mamma comments from the ignorant more than I would like. However, it appears the way men recieve gratification for their earnings is by pulling on their "members only" money jacket made of paychecks and stock options. The jacket ain't invisible boo so don't get mad when you get people attracted to your shiny essence.
I view the gold digger (money) for women as synonymous with the ass/breast/hair digger for men. They are outwardly attributes that rope in followers regardless of good sense, intellect, or good heart.
My point is this. Don't get mad at the gold digger for liking what you knowingly put on display and brag about like a Boy Scout Badge.
Nia
· 1 year ago
Reginald, the reason a woman will usually not side against the women in this situation is because the fault lies with BOTH the man and the woman. Just calling out the woman would mean that the man's behavior is acceptable, and quite frankly it isn't. Both parties in the "golddigging" scenario have issues.
Why is it that you are trying to victimize men? You are removing the accountability from men for their actions. MEN have made this behavior acceptable. The minute women found out that men would throw out all other dating criteria if she was "cute in the face, small in the waist" many stopped striving for higher excellence. The same reason butt injections, butt implants and Brazilian butt lifts are the most sought after of all cosmetic procedures.Because the male brain will compromise himself if he thought he could be with Buffy the Body or Melissa Ford.
We all have our own criteria for dating. If it is imperative for a man to have a "trophy" girlfriend and the only way he can accomplish this is with his money, who's problem is it hers or his?
As Ms. C-Diva stated, some men refuse to date a woman without a big ol butt, long hair and I'll go one further "exotic" looking. Do I feel this is wrong? No. It's called preferences. We all have choices. If you personally believe that a person's motivation for dating is not to your standards then you always have the option to NOT date them. However in the Golddigger situation, the man is a willing participant for WHATEVER his reasoning.
I personally think golddigging levels out the playing field. It allows the men that believe that money is ALL it takes, to get women that believe that money is ALL they need to be in love. It allows them to be together happily ever after, or until he is out of money or her ass sags and the next influx of video chicks are looking for sponsors. This way folks like you and I have the ability to entertain the option of dating the way it should be, for real love, respect, companionship. Don't question it, just AVOID IT! Stop trying to be Capt. Save-A-Ho, they don't want to be saved!
BigWill
· 1 year ago
Men have to be smart! If a woman can't sit on a park bench and share PB&J sandwiches good riddance. Can you imagine what it would be like to be married to this her? You'll be in Bravo's next Real Housewives of Atlanta: Season 2
Felicia
· 1 year ago
So, you meet a successful, educated, employed, and attractive single brother. Yep really single this time. And no children too. You may have thought you just struck gold (no shovels or digging necessary). A good catch by most standards. The catch, accustomed to impressing women (and others) with his finances, labels, and name dropping, starts his campaign. Sometimes subtle other times not so much. Not being particularly impressed, he fails to reel you in. After all, all women aren’t materialist and after what you’ve worked hard to achieve, right? But instead of admiring such qualities, he quietly dismisses you as not on his level or not “worldly” enough. What a catch! Men, please make up your minds. You really can’t have it both ways.
Untouched Jewel
· 1 year ago
I will just say this: men will say that women are golddiggers, because they are after a man's money. But it's almost the same as a man going after women to get some ass. Same principle, different resources. So I honestly believe that everyone (BOTH MALE AND FEMALE)end up being guilty of doing these things at some point or another. No one can blame the other. It's all dumb as hell to me anyway. Just be honest about your intentions, and let the other person decide if they wanna give up cash or give up ass. Either way it goes, it's all golddiggin, and yes, it's trickin when you do or don't have it.
Janiene
· 1 year ago
I was borned and raised in DC,and i relocated to Atlanta 3 years ago...and i must say they both have some valid points.
Sunfresh
· 1 year ago
"gold diggers can be fun if all that is being sought is fun, but for men looking for a compatible companion,"
Men have to know that cheddar attracts rats. Last time I went out in Atlanta, there were flashy straight attractive men - they attract the women impressed with the flash, glitz & glamor of city night culture.
None of the men that I take seriously have given off those vibes. I don't need a super-rich dude, but I need a dude that compliments my status not brings me down.
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As a successful woman, I am against gold mining of any kind, trust and believe I have heard the suga mamma comments from the ignorant more than I would like. However, it appears the way men recieve gratification for their earnings is by pulling on their "members only" money jacket made of paychecks and stock options. The jacket ain't invisible boo so don't get mad when you get people attracted to your shiny essence.
I view the gold digger (money) for women as synonymous with the ass/breast/hair digger for men. They are outwardly attributes that rope in followers regardless of good sense, intellect, or good heart.
My point is this. Don't get mad at the gold digger for liking what you knowingly put on display and brag about like a Boy Scout Badge.
Why is it that you are trying to victimize men? You are removing the accountability from men for their actions. MEN have made this behavior acceptable. The minute women found out that men would throw out all other dating criteria if she was "cute in the face, small in the waist" many stopped striving for higher excellence. The same reason butt injections, butt implants and Brazilian butt lifts are the most sought after of all cosmetic procedures.Because the male brain will compromise himself if he thought he could be with Buffy the Body or Melissa Ford.
We all have our own criteria for dating. If it is imperative for a man to have a "trophy" girlfriend and the only way he can accomplish this is with his money, who's problem is it hers or his?
As Ms. C-Diva stated, some men refuse to date a woman without a big ol butt, long hair and I'll go one further "exotic" looking. Do I feel this is wrong? No. It's called preferences. We all have choices. If you personally believe that a person's motivation for dating is not to your standards then you always have the option to NOT date them. However in the Golddigger situation, the man is a willing participant for WHATEVER his reasoning.
I personally think golddigging levels out the playing field. It allows the men that believe that money is ALL it takes, to get women that believe that money is ALL they need to be in love. It allows them to be together happily ever after, or until he is out of money or her ass sags and the next influx of video chicks are looking for sponsors. This way folks like you and I have the ability to entertain the option of dating the way it should be, for real love, respect, companionship. Don't question it, just AVOID IT! Stop trying to be Capt. Save-A-Ho, they don't want to be saved!
Men have to know that cheddar attracts rats. Last time I went out in Atlanta, there were flashy straight attractive men - they attract the women impressed with the flash, glitz & glamor of city night culture.
None of the men that I take seriously have given off those vibes. I don't need a super-rich dude, but I need a dude that compliments my status not brings me down.